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Posts: 6442 (09/05/2008 9:14 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	i was off and on with a guy for like 6 years...and if anyone remembers me talking about him we ended things when i found out he had a gf of like 6 years as well. anyways, they just got engaged and im just wondering if you would try to find a way to let the girl know whats been going on. i dont really want to get involved, but part of me feels terrible for her...and also a part of me wants his ass to get thrown to the curb for being such a skeeze to both of us. her sister used to live across the hall from me in college and i have been back and forth on whether or not i should mention something to her and then leave it up to her whether or not she wants to tell his girl
FreeSpiritSinger84		#1	[-]
Posts: 2612 (09/05/2008 9:15 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	How could a guy get away with cheating for 6 years?
rsnapple		#2	[-]
Posts: 6443 (09/05/2008 9:16 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	he is 2 years younger than her and he was at school with me and she was home...and then she moved to baltimore for grad school and he was home and i moved home
FreeSpiritSinger84		#3	[-]
Posts: 2613 (09/05/2008 9:18 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Wow that's really bogus. I wouldn't say anything to be honest.
coboardgirl		#4	[-]
Posts: 5758 (09/05/2008 9:22 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	As much as that sucks, I don't think I'd say anything. On one hand I know it'd be tempting cause he seems like a skeeze, but what if he already admitted it a while back? If you had any proof or knew that he was STILL cheating on her, I might say something, but it sounds like that's all in the past.
rsnapple		#5	[-]
Posts: 6445 (09/05/2008 9:23 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	coboardgirl wrote: As much as that sucks, I don't think I'd say anything. On one hand I know it'd be tempting cause he seems like a skeeze, but what if he already admitted it a while back? If you had any proof or knew that he was STILL cheating on her, I might say something, but it sounds like that's all in the past. i highly doubt he told her
DarklyDreaming07		#6	[-]
Posts: 38486 (09/05/2008 9:23 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	I'd keep my mouth shut. Chances are she won't believe you anyway.
Samantha James		#7	[-]
Posts: 2858 (09/05/2008 9:26 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	I'd tell her. Golden Rule and all. Wouldn't you want someone to tell you?
LilBabyWithTheSundressOn		#8	[-]
Posts: 36742 (09/05/2008 9:33 AM) Friendliest JJBer '07 Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Samantha James wrote: I'd tell her. Golden Rule and all. Wouldn't you want someone to tell you? Ditto. Even if she doesn't believe you at least you have a clear conscience.
rsnapple		#9	[-]
Posts: 6447 (09/05/2008 9:33 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	rOXyPoP17 wrote: Why would you wait now and not say anything before when you first found out and she wasn't his fiancee? because i wasnt aware they were together until i found out that they were engaged. i found out like a month ago and cant decide it i should just mind my own business or inform her so she can make her own decision
coboardgirl		#10	[-]
Posts: 5759 (09/05/2008 9:35 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Oh wow, so you just stopped fooling around with him like, a month or so ago and he's already engaged?
mshinda		#11	[-]
Posts: 4472 (09/05/2008 9:36 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Wait. At first I thought you were talking about your friend, who's fiance is cheating on her now. But this is the "other woman", and to boot, it's the one he ended up choosing? You'll sound like nothing but vindictive and trying to kick up shit. For all you know, he confessed and pledged his undying everlasting love to her and threw himself at her feet begging for forgiveness for his sins of the past. Or not . Still, you need to leave that alone.
Dylishis		#12	[-]
Posts: 30602 (09/05/2008 9:37 AM) Most Outspoken '08 Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	I wouldn't say shit.
Samantha James		#13	[-]
Posts: 2865 (09/05/2008 9:39 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	mshinda, would you want the other woman to tell you that your man was with her or not?
rsnapple		#14	[-]
Posts: 6448 (09/05/2008 9:43 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	mshinda wrote: Wait. At first I thought you were talking about your friend, who's fiance is cheating on her now. But this is the "other woman", and to boot, it's the one he ended up choosing? You'll sound like nothing but vindictive and trying to kick up shit. For all you know, he confessed and pledged his undying everlasting love to her and threw himself at her feet begging for forgiveness for his sins of the past. Or not . Still, you need to leave that alone. thats why i was thinking about telling her sister. that way, if he has confessed (which, again im almost sure he hasnt) then no big deal i guess...but if he hasnt then she can decide whats best for her sister...to tell her or to keep her in the dark and let her be oblivious to it. i mean, regardless he'll continue to cheat so it might be better for her to get out now
mshinda		#15	[-]
Posts: 4473 (09/05/2008 9:43 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Was with, no. Is with, yes.
Dylishis		#16	[-]
Posts: 30603 (09/05/2008 9:46 AM) Most Outspoken '08 Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	HYPOTHETICALLY I'm sorry, I'd rather find out on my own than have some bitch all up in my business. I don't care if she was with my man or not. She doesn't owe me shit. How could I ever trust where she was coming from? She could be some scandalous hoebag just trying to start crap. I would never trust another woman with no connection to me other than my man's penis telling me ANYTHING. Even if her intentions were good. If this happened for real, I pray that I'd have sense enough to KNOW that he's worthless before someone had to tell me. I know the OP's situation is REAL but me? I would just leave well enough alone.
Samantha James		#17	[-]
Posts: 2866 (09/05/2008 9:46 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	mshinda wrote: Was with, no. Is with, yes. Fair enough.
coboardgirl		#18	[-]
Posts: 5761 (09/05/2008 9:47 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Oh man, if I were her sister I would DEFINITELY tell my sis. And probably go on to eternally HATE the dude if they ended up staying together. If I were the girl getting cheated on, I'm not sure I'd want to hear it from my sister, because I don't think I'd want my sister to know about it.
DarklyDreaming07		#19	[-]
Posts: 38488 (09/05/2008 9:48 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Dylishis wrote: HYPOTHETICALLY I'm sorry, I'd rather find out on my own than have some bitch all up in my business. I don't care if she was with my man or not. She doesn't owe me shit. How could I ever trust where she was coming from? She could be some scandalous hoebag just trying to start crap. I would never trust another woman with no connection to me other than my man's penis telling me ANYTHING. Even if her intentions were good. If this happened for real, I pray that I'd have sense enough to KNOW that he's worthless before someone had to tell me. I know the OP's situation is REAL but me? I would just leave well enough alone. I agree with this. I'd be all "WTF" if some random girl who I didn't know came up to me and told me my BF was cheating.
mrsesnape		#20	[-]
Posts: 15598 (09/05/2008 9:48 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Anonymous letter!

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