makesJCadjustHisbuttonfly wrote:
Also, where did you hear about peeing after?Old wives tale.
It helps to prevent UTIs.
Sex advice! (TMI maybe?)
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Posts: 14270 (07/23/2008 10:41 PM) |
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 Scratch909 |
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Posts: 158 (07/23/2008 10:42 PM) |
AngelsTearDrop wrote:
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mastershake33 |
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Posts: 797 (07/23/2008 10:42 PM) |
I pray to sweet baby Jesus I'll be one of the lucky ones that it won't hurt for!
Well, I mean, I know he will try to make it as good as possible for me. I trust completely him in that regard. But like, is it best to do it again soon, or to wait a couple days or something? |
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EyECaNdY862 |
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Posts: 5147 (07/23/2008 10:43 PM) |
Honestly my first time wasn't that painful so I really wouldn't worry too much or get freaked out by what people here are saying since everyone is
different. I'm definitely very small (to the point where regular tampons hurt to use) and my boyfriend is about the same size as your guy. It hurt at first
when he went in for a few seconds but it was over fast and then the rest of the time it didnt hurt at all. But I agree with what people here are saying about
foreplay for awhile before and making sure you just relax.
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 14272 (07/23/2008 10:43 PM) |
Zazz don't you have any helpful pointers on taking on a 9 inch cock?
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ARODsgirl13 |
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Posts: 587 (07/23/2008 10:46 PM) |
maybe something else to think about...bleeding... it's common to bleed the first time isn't it? (well at least I did)
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mastershake33 |
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Posts: 798 (07/23/2008 10:46 PM) |
Yeah, I've heard from a lot of people that peeing afterwards helps prevent UTIs. Releases some of the bacteria or something. I don't know.
I'm
actually quite prone to getting UTIs, though. I got my first when I was 3 years old and had to get my bladder stretched and shit. But I usually still get one
every couple of years or so randomly. It's weird!
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kariya the dog |
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Posts: 6897 (07/23/2008 10:49 PM) |
ARODsgirl13 wrote: For some. I bled lightly off and on for a few days. I know others that didn't or it only lasted a few hours.
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makesJCadjustHisbuttonfly |
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Posts: 8147 (07/23/2008 10:50 PM) |
ZaZzified wrote: Really? I've never had that happen or heard of that actually happening. I learned something new today
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mastershake33 |
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Posts: 799 (07/23/2008 10:57 PM) |
Oh yeah, bleeding I'm prepared for.
Who made things this way, and why wasn't I born a guy! *shakes fist* |
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ARODsgirl13 |
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Posts: 588 (07/23/2008 10:59 PM) |
mastershake33 wrote: I think you'd be in a completely different relationship if you were born a guy |
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kaitertot |
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Posts: 117 (07/23/2008 11:07 PM) |
well i'm not gonna lie, thats quite a size to take on for your first so bravo!
lots of foreplay, take your time because there's really no need to rush it. lots of lube, probably silicone would be better because it lasts and doesn't break down where as some waterbases dry out. just take it easy and slow and enjoy it, if it hurts a little thats not uncommon just pace yourself. oh and i've never heard that you have to pee afterwards so don't worry about that! |
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Peaches418 |
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Posts: 3592 (07/23/2008 11:17 PM) |
isnt peeing more important if youre not using a condom? i dont know maybe thats not true, but thats what i thought.
as far as first times go, mine didnt hurt nearly as bad as i was expecting. just take it slowly and you'll be fine after a few times. |
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LilBabyWithTheSundressOn |
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Posts: 36199 (07/23/2008 11:39 PM) Friendliest JJBer '07 |
Definitely pee after. Better safe than sorry. And it has nothing to do with a condom. The friction of sex can push vaginal secretions into your urethra. The
vagina naturally has bacteria so that bacteria can travel up your urethra into your bladder and cause a UTI. Peeing soon after sex helps to flush out the
bacteria. Of course it's going to depend on your body and how prone you are to bladder infections in the first place but if you've ever had a UTI
you'd want to skip out to pee real quick just in case.
But yeah, lube, foreplay, maybe a couple drinks. Just try to relax. It might be somewhat painful no matter how relaxed you are but I guarantee it'll hurt worse if you're tense. |
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merchasa |
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Posts: 404 (07/24/2008 12:24 AM) |
can i ask you something? have you had an orgasm yet?
if you have and can, let him orally and manually give you an orgasm, or get you super close to orgasm. at that point let him start with his fingers, one, two three....then gently insert. honestly my first time was more a pressure feeling than a pain feeling, but i did ballet for ten years so i probably broke my hymen years earlier. but yeah. focus less on "cramming it in" and more on getting close to orgasm, then when he enters you it might make you cum, and you wont feel the twinge as much. for me it was a quick twinge. others feel it more, but it can be as much hype and emotional buildup as much as physical pain. i would also try not to tense up too much. if you do, slow down, use lube, use his fingers, and gently rub your clit while he enters you. it will keep you more excited and open you up more naturally. |
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Jenny Cide |
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Posts: 16200 (07/24/2008 12:46 AM) JJB Angel '07 |
Go find someone with a smaller penis and have sex with him a couple of times first! That's my advice!
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JTYDTRSexy |
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Posts: 435 (07/24/2008 1:07 AM) |
9"? lucky girl lol.
I think you can enjoy the moment unless you cant hold it in anymore lol. But it will hurt like everyone else said. Myself, it hurt for a little bit but itll get better. He just has to be really slow and gentle. I say the more he can work you up and the more you can relax the better. It wont hurt like that forever though |
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OhManImScrewed |
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Posts: 12305 (07/24/2008 1:11 AM) |
It will probably hurt. I say have a couple drinks before if possible. I'm not saying your first time should be a big shitshow, but it DEFINITELY loosens
you up a bit and makes things easier. and FOREPLAY is key!! Don't let him just dive right in.
I always pee after. It could seem ike a mood breaker, but realistically he's going to have to go clean up anyway so you might as well do so as well. You can cuddle and be all cutesy after. |
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luckySC 0409 |
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Posts: 76 (07/24/2008 1:29 AM) |
It didn't hurt me when I lost my virginity, and my boyfriend isn't exactly small... But I have heard friends say that it hurt them a lot, so I guess
it's different for everyone. Foreplay is definitely helpful...fingering, oral, any and all of it. It helps you to relax and get you wet enough for sex. But
if he is gentle and good about it, I'm sure it will be fine.
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coboardgirl |
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Posts: 5241 (07/24/2008 8:51 AM) |
I lost it to my now husband who is about the same in endowment as your guy is. Make sure he goes down on your first off and you're really wet before you
start. That's my best advice. I still bled, and it still hurt a lot, but it gets better after a while. It doesn't hurt nearly as bad as you think it
will though.
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