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Pliant Pineapple wrote:

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But I feel like if you agree to be in somebody's wedding and don't state any stipulations up front you should be there for most of it, not barely any of it.

What's the most important part of the day? The ceremony. You aunt was there to witness them get married, probably in a dress she hated, as was her daughter.

They made an appearance for what seems to be the major events of the reception. Combined, I'd hardly call that "barely any of it."

Are you pissed they didn't stick around to help clean up? Does the bride even care that they left early?

Actually the dresses were very nice, I thought. I really wonder if they moved all the major stuff up simply because the entire wedding party wouldn't be there if they had it later. I'm not pissed at all, it wasn't my wedding (I would be rather unhappy if it were) but cleaning up has nothing to do with it. It was catered so clean-up was taken care of. I just think that if it were my best friend at my wedding I'd feel as though she didn't care enough to be there for my day. I guess maybe my question should've been more "Would this make you feel hurt?"

From what my aunt told me the bride didn't care but she also seems like the type that even if she did care she'd claim she was okay with it.

gravis911 wrote:

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Wait, they're going to be there for an hour and a half? I read a 1/2 hour. Oh, FFS what more do people want.

I did say half hour.

I just know it would hurt me if a close friend cared more about getting to the beach early for the 13th year in a row than being with me on such a big day. I mean, I don't really care because it's not my wedding. I also think I'm looking at it as more of a first-time bride. I know the bride did feel uncomfortable in some ways about having another big wedding. And her sister made her register for gifts and stuff. Maybe I'd feel differently if I had a big wedding the first time and did it over again.

Yes, because nobody ever uses the word "made" when basically meaning "talked into."

I don't care if nobody else would feel the way I think I would. I was just curious as to other people's opinions. And I've tried to explain my own. Because it differs from the majority I must need validation and find a way to get everybody to see it my way. Wait. I'll be right back. I'm going to go get my gun and branding iron to make you all agree with me!